My husband is Passive Aggressive.
He left the home Saturday morning after I had asked him to leave multiple times....he finally left.
I didn't want him to leave but he had to. he withdrew so much from our family he was here in body but not really here. He would sit outside in the shed and sit on his phone or watch tv while I would cook clean and put the kids to bed. I would text him to tell him dinner was ready. sometimes he would come in sometimes he wouldn't. I would text him again to come and say goodnight to the kids.
He was self employed and was so unmotivated to work. He wouldn't look for work or advertise. He would just stay at home and wait for work to fall from the sky. Sometimes he would get word of mouth jobs. I would be so frustrated and try to talk to him but he couldn't take any criticism at all and walk away. or he would keep watching tv or look down at the ground and not answer. I would be so frustrated I would text message him all of my feelings or write him letters. I am unsure of how to treat him. I do feel sorry for him because I know he has a lot of childhood wounds. We have separated multiple times before and I am the one who always gives in and contacts him. He doesn't deal with anything at all. I am open to a miracle. I have had two recent dreams and feel they could be from God but not sure. The first one My husband died and I was sad but relieved, then he walked into the kitchen and I casually said Oh I thought you were dead. The next dream I had the night before he left. I dreamt he left and then he walked into the kitchen and gave me the biggest hug and was swaying as he hugged me. In the dream I felt unsure and scared but hugged him back. He also looked homeless and haggard. We have 8 children together. How do I treat him? Im hoping he will repent and follow Jesus (Yahushua) and be saved. He is a believer but because he is Passive Aggressive he doesn't act like a believer. Please help me to know how to treat him and how to act around him for the best chance of him repenting and getting help for his personality disorder.